"I know only one person whom I could count on not to indulge herself in ... conventional falsehoods, and she has never been able, so far as I know, to keep a friend. The habit of literal truth-telling ... is self-indulgence of the worst."
"Friendship is by its very nature freer of deceit than any other relationship we can know because it is the bond least affected bystriving for power, physical pleasure, or material profit, most liberated from any oath of duty or of constancy. With Eros the body stands naked, in friendship our spirit is denuded."
"Then did they strive with emulation who should repeat most wise maxims importing the necessity of suspicion in the choice of our friends--such as "mistrust is the mother of security," with many more to the same effect.... But notwithstanding the esteem which they professed for suspicion, yet did they think proper to veil it under the name of caution."
"Fear, when your friends say to you what you have done well, and say it through; but when they stand with uncertain timid looks ofrespect and half-dislike, and must suspend their judgement for years to come, you may begin to hope."
"It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy;Mit is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others."
"In true friendship, in which I am expert, I give myself to my friend more than I draw him to me. I not only like doing him good better than having him do me good, but also would rather have him do good to himself than to me; he does me most good when he does himself good."