"Married love is a stream that, after a certain length of time, sinks into the earth and flows underground. Something is there, but one does not know what. Only the vegetation shows that there is still water."
"... we are not dreamers or fanatics; and we know that the ballot when we get it, will achieve for woman no more than it has achieved for man.... The ballot is not even half the loaf; it is only a crust--a crumb. The ballot touches only those interests, either of women or men, which take their root in political questions. But woman's chief discontent is not with her political, but with her social, and particularly her marital bondage. The solemn and profound question of marriage ... [ellipsis in source] is of more vital consequence to woman's welfare, reaches down to a deeper depth in woman's heart, and more thoroughly constitutes the core of the woman's movement, than any such superficial and fragmentary question as woman's suffrage."
"The aura of the theocratic death penalty for adultery still clings to America, even outside New England, and multiple divorce, which looks to the European like serial polygamy, is the moral solution to the problem of the itch. Love comes into it too, of course, but in Europe we tend to see marital love as an eternity which encompasses hate and also indifference: when we promise to love we really mean that we promise to honour a contract. Americans, seeming to take marriage with not enough seriousness, are really taking love and sex with too much."
"Well, the wedding is over, the good folks are joined for better for worse--a shocking clause that!--'tis preparing one to lead a long journey, and to know the path is not altogether strewed with roses."
"She noted that marriage is a very serious thing. I answered that no, it is not.... She just wanted to know if I would have accepted the same proposal from another woman with whom I would have had a relationship like ours. I said, "Of course"."
"A man will teach his wife what is needed to arouse his desires. And there is no reason for a woman to know any more than what her husband is prepared to teach her. If she gets married knowing far too much about what she wants and doesn't want then she will be ready to find fault with her husband."
"From three to six months, most babies have settled down enough to be fun but aren't mobile enough to be getting into trouble. This is the time to pay some attention to your relationship again. Otherwise, you may spend the entire postpartum year thinking you married the wrong person and overlooking the obvious--that parenthood can create rough spots even in the smoothest marriage."
"We should be careful never to imagine, that the wedding-day is the burial of love, but that in reality love then begins its best life; and if we set out upon that principle, and are mindful to keep it up, and give due attention and aid to the progress of love thus brought into the well ordered well sheltered garden, we may enjoy I believe as much happiness as is consistent with the imperfection of our present state of being."