"As a child I was taught that to tell the truth was often painful. As an adult I have learned that not to tell the truth is more painful, and that the fear of telling the truth--whatever the truth may be--that fear is the most painful sensation of a moral life."
"It's important to remember that children who are facing a frightening situation have three fundamental concerns: Am I safe? Are you, the people who care for me, safe? How will this affect my daily life?"
"Above and beyond paying attention to feelings before and after a separation, never threaten your child with leaving or loss of love in an effort to control her behavior. Children believe their parents' assertions that "I will send you away," "I won't love you any more," "I'll go away," and are terrified with good reason. Fear is a very poor way of disciplining a child, and it can cause severe lifelong anxiety."
"I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taughtto respect fear more than ourselves. We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't."